Adrian Peterson Case: No Good Men To Be Found

I originally wrote this piece about the Adrian Peterson child abuse scandal for the Good Men Project, but they felt it was too one-sided.  Guess I am a bit biased against child abusers because of my past, but I've littered this post with links demonstrating that what I've presented is factual and not simply subjective.  Maybe I should include the men at the Good Men Project as those who didn't show themselves to be good men?

The Good Men Project is a favorite of mine because it gets as close to defining what it means to be a good man in this age without all the sermonizing and emasculation.  I have wanted to write an article for them for quite some time, and I thought it was going to be something inspiring and wonderful to read.  Little did I realize it would end up being a tale of disappointment in so many men. 

The much-publicized saga of All-Pro NFL running back and confirmed child abuser Adrian Peterson has an obvious villain.  This 217-lb person - I doubt I’ll ever refer to him as a “man” again - beat his 4-year old son with both a belt and a tree branch so bad that it caused “bruising and visible cuts and slash marks” after he stuffed leaves from the branch into the boy’s mouth.  I attempted to look beyond the obvious storylines we’ve all been reading throughout this sad tale. 

My hope was to find men involved in this case who were lighthouses in this dark storm.  I wanted to pen the one feel-good piece that could be written about such a wretched situation.  Certainly there was at least one real man somewhere along this storyline who boldly stepped up at the risk of taking on an incredibly popular multi-millionaire star player in arguably America’s most popular sport. 

I was wrong.

When the news broke that Peterson had been charged with criminal levels of child abuse, Vikings general manager Rick Spielman initially suspended him for just one game and eagerly reinstated his lead back the following week saying, “we feel strongly as an organization that this is disciplining a child.”  Minnesota owner Zygi Wilf and Mr. Spielman view cuts, bruises, and slash marks sustained on a pre-school boy at the hands of a grown man much differently than I do.  These are not good men.

I understand their competitive desire and duty to field the best players for their team.  However, they also have a responsibility for setting the cultural tone for the organization and their community.  These two men each had an opportunity to demonstrate what that NFL franchise stands for, and one thing it shouldn’t stand for is the cold-hearted abuse of defenseless children.  I expect better than this from society’s leaders.

Surely the one man who would have all the cover and incentive required to fight for that child’s best interests would be the prosecuting District Attorney Brett Ligon.  He folded like a cheap card table at the prospect of losing a high-profile battle with Peterson’s lawyer, an admittedly effective attorney winning acquittals for professional athlete scumbags accused of spousal abuse and sexually attacking their own daughters.  Ligon allowed Peterson to plead out with virtually no punishment. 

As if that wasn’t cowardly enough, the district attorney promptly threw the boy's mother under the proverbial bus to cover his own professional backside.  Ligon blamed his decision to tuck tail and run  the mom because “… this is exactly what she wanted."  

I appreciate the difficult position the district attorney was in.  Yet a real man would not have conceded a battle to defend a child, and he absolutely shouldn’t have hidden behind a woman after having done so.  The mother being an apologist for the abuser is never reason to shirk the duty of a district attorney’s office.

I didn’t really expect to find much good in Peterson's lawyer, but it was how he defended his client that I found so offensive.  He stated that horse-whipping a four year-old was a family matter and not something in which the legal system should be involved, which is essentially saying that tiny boy doesn’t have a right to be protected from the trauma he suffered.  I know somebody has to defend these guys in our legal system, I just don’t know how they can claim children don’t deserve protection and then ever sleep again.

I also wrongly assumed that NFL commissioner Roger Goodell would have learned from his complete tone-deafness during the Ray Rice domestic abuse debacle.  Instead of suspending Peterson outright, the NFL commish decided it was more appropriate to essentially give Peterson a paid $5 million vacation on the Exempt List instead of suspending him immediately without pay.  What exactly does one of the NFL’s domestic thugs need to do before he hands out real punishment?

     

Just when I thought my research couldn’t turn up anything more vile regarding this situation, I came across this little nugget:  Vikings head coach Mike Zimmer actually read a motivational text message from Peterson to his players to inspire them before the Atlanta game.

Motivational quotes should come from Martin Luther King, Jr. and Gandhi… not from a disgraced bully who attacks four-year olds.  I wonder if Zimmer also puts up posters of Pol Pot’s most inspirational quotes and hands out Mein Kampf on the team bus, too.

Now the question comes down to when Peterson will start carrying the rock again and what will happen after he returns to the team?  If Vikings fullback Jerome Felton is to be believed, Peterson will have 100% support in the locker room upon his return.  Assuming that’s true then there isn't a single decent (much less "good") man on that entire squad.  I understand the need to have locker room unity and all that but, seriously, there’s not one good man amongst 53 on the active roster with a conscience? 

Finally, there's Peterson himself who refused to step up like a good man to own his mistake.  Instead he tried to justify his actions by saying the way he harmed the child wasn't really his fault because he was just following the same discipline he received as a child.  I don't doubt he’s telling the truth, but he had a chance to become a symbol of breaking the generation-to-generation chain of abuse that is very common in these situations. 

He also miss an opportunity to set a wonderful example of being a good man who accepts responsibility, learns from his mistakes, and demonstrates to his son how a good man is willingly accountable for his actions.  Given the bully pulpit he has because of his fame, Peterson could have had a great impact towards better parenting and protection of defenseless children. 

The one thing I kept wondering while writing this was what kind of man this little boy is going to become.  All around him are men who have failed him.  From the father he likely idolizes to the public officials tasked with protecting him, he has learned that being traumatized is just part of childhood and there’s nobody around to protect him.

I sincerely hope I am mistaken and there is at least one good male role model in that child’s life I was unable to find.  If not, statistics show that 20 years from now he is likely to continue that cycle of violence to the detriment of another defenseless child.  I prefer to think that maybe this four-year old will end up being the one good man to come out of this situation.